January 20th, 2012  Posted at   Divorce, Muslims, Women
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I’m interested in Islam and have been reading up about it for the past few days now, although not as much as I’d like to. My job and my son take a great deal of time. However, I had this question that I was searching an answer for, and couldn’t find. Let’s say I were to become Muslim, would it still be okay to live as a single parent with my job etc.? In my culture – Hinduism – single parents are absolutely abhorred, even if they are divorcees like me. One of my biggest attractions to Islam has been when my friend told me how Islam respects women, even if what I read in the Indian press is otherwise.

If some of them do, it’s their problem. The Quran (the Word of God) and the Hadeeth (the words of Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him), say nothing about treating divorcees any differently from married women.

Some people think, that because Islam highly regards marriage and highly discourages divorce, that divorced women are to be looked down on. No basis for that whatsoever. In fact, most men recognize that divorces are more often the fault of the man. That is why, IMHO, God makes it a potential point of no return when a man divorces his wife for the third time. God wants to keep couples together, but He will not tolerate a man who plays a game with the sacred covenant that is marriage.

Islam teaches Muslims that they are brothers and sisters to each other,
“Verily, believers are siblings, so make right between your two siblings, and watch out for God that you may receive mercy” (49:10). And it teaches that women and men are allies to one another,
“Believing men and believing women are allies of each other; they promote virtue, curb the objectionable, establish prayer, give alms, and obey God and His Messenger. Those – God will have mercy on them. Verily, God is Mighty and Wise.” (9:71).
Thus, every Muslim man is expected to treat every Muslim woman as if she is his wife, mother, daughter or sister. And most Muslim men meet that expectation. You can see it in many Muslim countries.

January 2nd, 2012  Posted at   Blasphemy, Hadeeth, Quran, Tradition/Culture
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Assalamu Alaikum WR WB
What is the correct ruling of Islam, with regards to observing silence?

In universities and many public places, when the administration / government asks us to observe the silence for few minutes as a tribute to the expired people, or any other past incidence such as natural disasters etc, as a Muslim, am I permitted to do undergo with this command? To stand up and keep quite for few minutes??

And, what is the correct ruling on standing up when the chief guest arrives for a meeting, or when we see elders, teachers, etc….

Some say that the companions of Prophet (PBUH) did never stand up, when they saw the Prophet, so we are not supposed to stand up for the chief guests to show the respect …

But on the other hand, I know of a Hadeeth, where Prophet (PBUH) stood up to show his respect to a Jewish funeral parade. Am I correct? (I am not sure about the authenticity of this Hadeeth)

I am quite confused with these two issues. Please do help me as usual Insha Allah

May Allah Azzawajal bless you always
Fee Amanillah

The related prohibition in the Quran is of participation in Zoor (falshood). The verse is (25:72), identifying “the worshipers of the Beneficent”: “And [they are] those who do not witness falsehood, and when they pass by frivolity, they pass dignified.”

Observing a moment of silence out of respect for a deceased person does not come under the criterion of Zoor. No words are uttered by definition, so there is no risk of being involved in blasphemy. It would be different if a clergyman was leading the audience and started to say words that are blasphemous.

As for standing up when some VIP enters the room, there is a hadeeth about it, narrated by Mu`aawiya ibn Abi-Sufyaan, and rated authentic by Al-Albaani, in which Mu`aawiya tells of when he came into a room where Abdullah ibn Az-Zubayr (RA) and Abdullah ibn `Aamir were sitting. Ibn Az-Zubayr stayed seated but Ibn Aamir stood up. Mu`aawiya told Ibn `Aamir to sit down because the Prophet (PBUH) said, ‘Whoever is pleased when people stand up for him, let him pick his seat in Hell!’”

You will notice that the prohibition in this hadeeth is against being pleased when people stand up to greet you. It does not prohibit people from doing it.

The hadeeth you mentioned is specific about funerals. It was reported by Abu-Daawood who did not rate it, and narrated by Jaabir ibn Abdillah, Abu-Hurayra and others and rated Hasan (Sound) by Al-Albaani. In it, the Prophet (PBUH) says, “When you see a funeral procession, stand up for it.”

Gestures of respect have been expressed by all communities throughout the ages. There is no harm in them unless they degrade the person or resemble acts reserved for worship. For instance, kneeling before the Queen to be knighted, or prostrating to people to apologize to them.

January 1st, 2012  Posted at   Authentication, Blind following, Hadeeth, Muhammad, Muslims, Prayer, Quran, Salafi, Zakah/Alms
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The following was asked on a discussion forum I follow. I need your help in answering it.

A few weeks ago, I joined a woman’s group and we post questions to get to know each other and answer questions, give advice, and so on. It was a mixed group with Muslims and non-Muslims with the majority being Muslim. Anyway, there were several debates in which some women would argue over why they reject hadith and only follow Quran. I’m wondering how can they be Muslim when they reject certain aspects of Islam?

Almighty Allah SWT says: “This day have I perfected your religion for you, completed My favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion” (5:3)

Rejecting the Hadeeth altogether is irrational! Because it is the Hadeeth that tells us how many prayers we have to pray everyday, how to pray and what to say in a prayer, what proprotion of our money are we to take out for the Zakah (mandatory alms), among hundreds of other teachings without which the religion would not be complete.

More importantly, rejecting the Hadeeth is tantamount to disobeying God, who says, “Whoever obeys the Messenger has obeyed God” (4:80). How do we obey the Prophet (PBUH) if we don’t know what he said?!

Which brings me to the reason which is probably why these folks reject the Hadeeth. Namely, they do not trust that the prophet (PBUH) said what the Hadeeths say he said. I doubt that any Muslim would actually know that the Prophet ordered something and they consciously decide not to do it!

So, the issue actually is the authenticity of the Hadeeth. There is reason to be suspicious of the authenticity of the Hadeeth, but that’s no reason to reject it; it is reason to scrutinize it.

This is exactly why our righteous predecessors spent lifetimes collecting narrations, verifying the integrity and competence of each narrator and ensuring the continuity of the “chain of narrators”. May God have been pleased with their phenomenal efforts. They found out that 90% of all narrations going around were either weak or outright fabrications! They discovered that many narrators were not credible or were incompetent.

The good news is that they ended up with the creme of the crop: Men and women of impeccable reputation, remarkable memory, mastery of language, piety and knowledge. Those are the narrators of the Hadeeths rated authentic by the leading Hadeeth scholars, such as Al-Bukhaari and Muslim.

The disciplines of Hadeeth study are many and are sophisticated; you actually are taught them in specialized universities in the Muslim world! There is the Usool discipline (Foundations), the Takhreej discipline (scrutinization and rating of narrations), Ta’reekh discipline (biography of narrators), Al-Jarh wat-Ta`deel discipline (assessment of narrators), as well as the need to learn the vocabulary, customs, geography and society at the time of the Prophet (PBUH) until the Hadeeth books were authored three Centuries later.

What the Hadeeth scholars have done is a showcase of scientific discipline. Yet, they were human still and as human they could err despite their best efforts. Therefore, it is conceivable that a hadeeth could be rated authentic but has fundamental problems with it. This is a sensitive issue, because strict Muslims, such as the Salafis (blind followers of ancestors) reject the notion that the Salaf (ancestors) could have made mistakes. Other Muslims are puzzled by the apparent discrepancy, even contradiction, of what some hadeeths say and what the Quran says. Whenever such situation happens, Muslims typically have one of four reactions: (a) Pretend that there is no discrepancy, (b) Attempt to reconcile the two texts, (c) Favor the Quran over the Hadeeth, or, believe it or not, (d) Favor the Hadeeth over the Quran!

I humbly suggest that everybody should do (b)! And if they can’t, then at least (c). The other approaches to the problem are irrational, because a true hadeeth cannot possibly conflict with the Quran.

The women in your friend’s group have taken the cop-out position, which, IMHO, is just as bad as pretending there’s no problem.

Verse 5:3, which you cited, and the subsequent two verses were the last verses revealed of the Quran. The Prophet (PBUH) knew that his mission is complete and that perhaps his time was up. He said on his “farewell sermon” which immediately followed the revelation of 5:3-5, “Listen to me and understand what I’m saying, perhaps I will not see you again after this year of ours!” He died three months later. Thus, the “completion verse” meant that not only was the Quran complete, but the Hadeeth too. Their conveyor, peace be upon him, would shortly die.

So, to answer your main question: Those people don’t know how to handle hadeeths that seem to contradict the Quran, so they don’t bother with the Hadeeth at all. It’s a radical reaction, kind of like being diagnosed differently by different doctors then deciding that you won’t treat yourself at all! The right thing to do is to scrutinize the hadeeth. By doing so, and provided the hadeeth is authentic, one gains knowledge of what the hadeeth actually means and can see that no conflict exists between it and the Quran. That is a task that is understandably beyond the capacity of most Muslims. It is an obligation, IMHO, upon Muslim scholars to do this and ease people’s minds.

January 1st, 2012  Posted at   Abraham, Attributes of God, Deduction discipline, Hell, Quran, Satan
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A man asked a Shaykh (Muslim scholar), “O Shaykh, the hell is made from fire, and Satan is made from fire! So, how will the punishment harm him when they are created from the same thing?”

The Shaykh told him to come closer, then he slapped him across the face! The man was in shock and asked, “That hurts! Why did you slap me!?” To which the Shaykh replied, “What is my hand made from?” The man replied, “Flesh.” He then asked the man, “And what is your face made from?” He answered, “Flesh!” The shaykh conclusively asked him, “Now, did you not feel pain?”

via Islamic Experiences

Clever, eh?

I’d add that the power of God overrules the laws that govern His creatures. He said to the fire in the pit where Abraham was thrown, “O fire! Be cool and safe on Abraham!” (21:69) And Abraham walked out of the pit unscathed.

December 26th, 2011  Posted at   Angels, Hadeeth, Mary, Muhammad, Quran, Saints, Sunna, Supplication, Tradition/Culture
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Assalamu Alaikum WR WB.

I need the clarifications on passing different types of Islamic titles on different individuals / group.

We say Alaihissalam to All the prophets, and angels.. and Mahdi too………

We say Radiyallahu Anhu, to Sahabas…

Some say Raheemahullah to living scholars, and the expired as well…

I wanna know, the root of these titles, why we say this?

More over, I met some one and she said, Prophet (PBUH) commanded us to say Salawat upon his family, and we must say Alaihissalaam to Ali(Ral). And when I said its from shia analogies, she replied back saying that Imam Bukhari has approved this !!!!

Please do throw light on this issue Insha Allah..
Fee Amanillah

That is a good convention created by as-Salaf as-Saalih (the righteous predecessors) after the death of the Prophet (PBUH).

In the Quran, God tells us that He “prays” for the Prophet (PBUH) and so do the angels and asks us to do likewise and send our greetings to him (33:56). Therefore, it is highly recommended that we say Salla Allaahu Alayhi wa Sallam (May God bless and greet him), which is commonly abbreviated PBUH (peace be upon him), whenever Muhammad’s name is mentioned.

As for other prophets, for the angels and for some distinguished people, such as Mary, we are encouraged to say “Alaihi As-Salaam” (peace be upon him), or in the case of Mary “Alayha as-Salaam” (peace be upon her), because the Prophet (PBUH) did so.

BTW, God “praying” for somebody means He graces them.

In the Quran, God tells us that He “is pleased with” the Sahaaba (companions of the Prophet, PBUH), who pledged allegiance to the Prophet (PBUH) (48:18). That is the origin of the phrase Radhiya Allaahu `Anhu (May God have been pleased with him), commonly abbreviated RA, in reference to the Sahaaba.

For all subsequent Muslims, the convention has been to say Rahimahu Allaah (May God have mercy on him), in reference to a deceased Muslim.

You were correct when you told your friend that special treatment of Ali (RA) tends to occur with our Shee`i colleagues. I’m not aware of anything that Al-Bukhaari has said that is different.

All those honorary phrases are literally prayers for those wonderful people. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Whoever prays for his brother in absentia, the angels reply, ‘Amen, and the same to you!’”, narrated by Abud-Dardaa’ and reported by Muslim who rated it authentic.

It is not appropriate to say Rahimahullah about living people, even though literally it is valid. The reason is the convention that it refers to deceased people.

December 4th, 2011  Posted at   Faith, Hadeeth, Quran, Repentance, Sin
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Assalamu Alaikum WR WB

I have a doubt regarding Istigfar (seeking forgiveness) and Tawba (repentance).

I know both of them are different from each other. But I don’t have a proper understanding on them…

But, when it comes to “Repentance” , most of us make it in our own ways, without knowing about the differences which are there behind these two terms..

So, If you can explain to us what really they are from the beginning, it would be a beneficial piece of information for many of us Insha Allah.

Fee Amanillah (in the safety of God)

Wa Alaykum Assalaamu WR WB.

Simply put, Tawba (repentance) must follow Istighfaar (asking God for forgiveness), or else the latter was insincere! God says in the holy Quran,

“And ask forgiveness of your Lord and then repent to Him. Indeed, my Lord is Merciful and Affectionate.” (11:90)

A believer asks God for forgiveness out of regret. He or she recognizes or suspects they sinned and it is a scary thought. Who best to relieve that fear but Al-Ghafoor (the Most Forgiving), Ar-Raheem (the Most Merciful)?

That recognition is a sign of faith that is still alive. But it is not sufficient to have faith. Action must confirm it. Repentance confirms the guilt feeling that prompted Istighfaar. Without repentance, the sin does not go away, rather tends to be repeated. And it may not be forgiven.

The two terms, as you well know, are emphasized frequently in the Quran and the Hadeeth. This verse is a perfect example,

“And those who, when they committed a debauchery or wronged themselves, remembered God and sought forgiveness for their sins – and who forgives sins except God? – and [who] did not persist in what they have done while they know.” (3:135)

The key words “did not persist” are what repentance is. It is the harder of the two! In fact, God tells us in the Quran that He helps out repentants when He sees that they are ready for it:

“…and their souls confined them and they were certain that there is no refuge from God except in Him. Then He eased it up on them so that they may repent” (9:118)

Truthful repentance (Tawba Nasooha) is done in three stages, as Sheikh Sha`raawi, may God bless his soul, clearly explains in this video,

God knows very well how hard repentance is. That is why the Prophet (PBUH) has said، “All the children of Adam are oft-sinners, and the best of the oft-sinners are the oft-repentants.” Narrated by Anas ibn Maalik and rated Hasan (Sound) by Ibn Hajar and Al-Albaani.

Thus, believers can rest assured that just as they sin often, they should ask for forgiveness often and repent often. If they break their repentance and sin again, it’s not the end of the world. God is Al-Haleem (the Forbearing), At-Tawwaab (the One who keeps accepting repentance) and Al-Ghaffaar (the Oft-Forgiving). May He include us in His wide Grace.

November 21st, 2011  Posted at   Mary, Quran, Signs/Reflection
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What does Islam say about the Marian Apparitions? They claim that the Virgin Mary (peace be upon her) appeared herself in front of certain people to deliver them a message, like The Lady of Guadeloupe, The Lady of Fatima etc? Did the Virgin Mary really appear before the people? Or was it Satan disguised as someone righteous in order to lead people astray? Thanks!

No one knows for sure.

What Islam says about Mary, peace be upon her, is pretty much what’s in the Quran. God describes her and her son as a “sign for the worlds” (21:91). Signs of God are there to draw our attention to Him, not to the sign.

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My mother was born and raised Catholic but converted to Islam when she married my father. Although she embraced Islam as her religion it didn’t affect her very close relationship with her family. So, whenever there are occasions like Christmas, All Saint’s Day, and birthdays we would usually go as a family. Even after my mother’s passing we still continue the tradition. Are we committing any sin?

Being kind and courteous to your family and relatives is something that Islam emphasizes a lot, even if the family is non-Muslim. What Islam warns against is participation in Zoor (lies and falsehood). God says in the holy Quran,

“And those (worshipers of the Beneficent) who do not witness falsehood, and when they pass by frivolity, they pass dignified” (25:72)

The reason for this warning is that participation in such activities, sooner or later, affects one’s beliefs and may taint his faith. Islam has made it clear that Muslims must express Walaa’ (allegiance) to the truth and Baraa’ (detachment) from falsehood.

It is because of Baraa’ that Asmaa’ bint Abi-Bakr, may God have been pleased with both, refused to receive her mother, Qateela bint Abdil-`Uzza, who was a polytheist, who traveled from Mecca to Medina to see her and brought her a gift. Asmaa’ would not let her in her house and would not take her gift! Just then, God revealed verses 60:8-9,

“God does not forbid you from those who did not fight you because of religion and did not expel you from your homes – from being cordial toward them and acting with equity toward them. Indeed, God loves the equitable.
God only forbids you from those who fought you because of religion and expelled you from your homes and aided in your expulsion – [forbids] that you ally with them. And whoever allies with them, then it is those who are the wrongdoers.” (60:8-9)

The Prophet (PBUH) promptly ordered Asmaa’ to receive her mother, accept her gift and be kind and hospitable to her. These verses correct the misunderstanding that some Muslims have about Walaa’ and Baraa’. These teachings do not imply hatred of non-Muslims; they teach that Baraa’ is the separation from hostile enemies of Islam and that Walaa’ is the allegiance with those who testify to the truth about God.

So, to answer your question, you are not committing a sin if the celebrations you attend are free from falsehood. If a celebration starts to take a religious inclination in which false theology is uttered or blasphemous acts are practiced, then you should immediately excuse yourself and leave, after wishing your relatives well.

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Hello, I have a Jehovah’s Witness aunt whom I think is trying to convert me. No one in my family knows that I’m a Muslim, being that I’m only a 15 yrs old convert. My aunt who’s a Jehovah’s Witness gave me a Jehovah’s Witness book for young people which I still read, because it has good moral messages which comply with Islamic morals and I find nothing wrong with them. But I just feel a lil uncomfortable when she’s telling me about Jehovah God and how he’s blessing me etc. What should I do? How should I respond to this? Should I tell her I’m Muslim and talk to her about the Quran? Thanks

Your aunt loves you and if she’s trying to convert you, she’s doing it out of her belief and out of her love for you. You should be kind to her as you have been. You are probably too young to tell her about Islam though, but it’s your call. If she’s a supportive kind of person, you may tell her. But bear in mind that many people nowadays have a negative view of Islam because of the media, so if she’s the kind of person who believes what she hears on TV, you’d be better off not telling her.

Jehovah did bless you! The name Jehovah is the English pronunciation of the Hebrew word Yahweh, which means “O You who is He!” The reason for this name is that many Jews took the third Commandment very seriously and thought it meant to never say God’s name. What the commandment actually teaches is that a believer should not swear by God’s name unless he means what he says and will honor what he promises. This is the same teaching in the Quran,

“And do not make God a subject to your oaths…” (2:224)

And God explains this verse further in the following verse,

“God does not chastise you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He chastises you for what your hearts have earned. And God is Forgiving and Forbearing.” (2:225)

And the Prophet (PBUH) explained oaths etiquette by saying, “Whoever is going to swear, let him swear by God or be silent.” (Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar and reported by Al-Bukhaari who rated it authentic).

So, Jehovah is Allah and He blessed you by guiding you to Islam.

November 6th, 2011  Posted at   Abraham, Celebrations/Memorials, Faith, Hagar, Ishmael, Islam, Muslims, Peace, Rituals
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Eid Mubarak to all fellow Muslims around the world. Today is the feast of sacrifice, commemorating the ultimate willingness to surrender to God by prophets Abraham and Ishmael and Lady Haajar (Hagar), peace be upon them. They all teach us the lesson that surrender to God, which is what the word Islam means, is the gateway to peace, prosperity and longevity.

Hijr-Ismail

Tawaaf around the Ka`ba


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